lot of us hoped for n number of things in life, material objects that can
symbolise our status and success. Many among us wish to own a house, have a fruitful
career, and have a happy family. Apart from possessions and recognition, people
also desire security and fulfilment of a relationship. When we finally meet our
soul partner, we are thrilled and believe that life is now complete. However,
when things go off the beam, and the connection reaches an end, we go through mixed
emotions that seem like to tear our soul apart. Losing people who are beloved
to us leaves us in pain, and we do not understand how to handle it: let go.
Letting go of a relationship that has meant everything to us is not a cake walk.
It is tough to even think about losing someone who has given us so much to remember. A person who we wanted to spent our whole life with, the only person whom we were always to rely on, the only person who stood beside us when the rest left us suddenly disappears from our world. Nobody can ever envisage the aching, the agony we would be going through. It would be the time when we feel alone, depressed but each one of us has to undergo this pain some or the other day in our life. When we lose somebody near to us, our world can feel suddenly different and unknown. Without them, we wouldn’t know what to do.
start to miss them so much. Even though they are not near, we always carry them
in our heart. We may find simple routine tasks nearly impossible to do. On
another day we may feel depressed, and the next moment we might be angry toward
friends, family, or the world. For some, the experience will be intense, with a
quick succession of high and low emotions. But we should always remember that
whatever emotion you are feeling is a part of your grieving process.
The hardest part of all to unchain our heart that’s holding on and start to live our life again as nothing has happened at all. At that acute moment, the only thing left with us is the memories of our dear one. These memories work as a ray of sunshine after the storm to bring a smile on our face. Even though it’s meant for a few seconds, we are pleased to have those memories stored. While looking back to the stack of photos, we realise it is the best way of preserving the memories of our dear one. They are the window to our past that was once so beautiful.
tears flow down while we sit there and attempt to describe that picture.
It is probably the most painful memory we have. But whether good or bad,
these will only be the things you have with you of your dearly one. There will
be so many good moments you shared – It might be the first time you met them,
the happy moments you both shared, your marriage, the moments when you fought
over silly topics and then try to overcome those fights apologising to each
other. These small little moments form a major part of our life through
we try to move on with our life, we might find that we can think of our loved
one and feel happy instead of sad or hurt. Embrace those feelings of joy and
happiness, and think of them as the gifts your loved one has provided you. Despite
how firm we try, we cannot live in the past nor stay forever in the present. To
live, we must move on and look to the future. In spite of several years passing
by, the love that we once lost cannot be replaced, as if we have lost a part within
us. The aching of that damage stays forever. Still, life goes on, sadly on a
different pathway than we assumed. Sometimes it’s the only choice left which
becomes the only way to live our life. We need to feel good and live with the memories of a precious
one, treasure them and move on in life.
It all started with a mere wink at the college entrance. I still remember the orientation program at our college. It was the first time we exchanged smile. The smile that brew a heart warming friendship between us which turn out into a beautiful relation within a blink of an eye. I don’t know what attracted me towards you. Maybe your loving soul or your caring heart. Maybe your friendly appearance or your ambitious mind. Maybe your tikki nok jok with me 😉 or just your mere presence in my life.
You remember our first touch, the first time we held our hands- we never thought it would be for life time.
Our first kiss- that is the sweetest mistake we ever did;)
Our first date- I still remember the sunset at the beach. That beautiful end of a day started a beautiful relation for lifetime.
Over the years, our relation have gone through many storms(some of the deadliest storms) but it is astonishing to watched how it has helped us grow stronger each time.
Sometimes you know, i just feel like leaving you and going away because resorting to that seems to be the easiest option. And then i realize that with just a sentence, how shattered we would be.
How it would bring about the destruction of more than one emotion. I realize that i’ll know your importance only after you leave because that’s what they always say. But actually coming to think of it, i would really wonder about how amongst the millions of fishes in the sea, you are the nicest and cutest one.
About how people have swam out of my life so easily, moving on with the waves. About how you cooperate and adapt to every stupid thing i do and still choose to swim along.
About how hard it is to find someone who appreciates and motivates me like you do. And the one that scares me the most, about how difficult it would be for me and how many miles i would have to swim to try to find someone like you and how lucky i am right now.
I would realize how i would be losing out on a best friend; a person i chose to trust after so many years, a person i chose for myself. I’m sorry for the times i made you feel crap and acted unreasonably.
On this special day, i just want to thank you for standing there for me always, for believing in me and making me believe in myself, for handling all my tantrums patiently, for making me laugh when i found it difficult to even smile, and for loving me as i’m.