lot of us hoped for n number of things in life, material objects that can
symbolise our status and success. Many among us wish to own a house, have a fruitful
career, and have a happy family. Apart from possessions and recognition, people
also desire security and fulfilment of a relationship. When we finally meet our
soul partner, we are thrilled and believe that life is now complete. However,
when things go off the beam, and the connection reaches an end, we go through mixed
emotions that seem like to tear our soul apart. Losing people who are beloved
to us leaves us in pain, and we do not understand how to handle it: let go.
Letting go of a relationship that has meant everything to us is not a cake walk.
It is tough to even think about losing someone who has given us so much to remember. A person who we wanted to spent our whole life with, the only person whom we were always to rely on, the only person who stood beside us when the rest left us suddenly disappears from our world. Nobody can ever envisage the aching, the agony we would be going through. It would be the time when we feel alone, depressed but each one of us has to undergo this pain some or the other day in our life. When we lose somebody near to us, our world can feel suddenly different and unknown. Without them, we wouldn’t know what to do.
start to miss them so much. Even though they are not near, we always carry them
in our heart. We may find simple routine tasks nearly impossible to do. On
another day we may feel depressed, and the next moment we might be angry toward
friends, family, or the world. For some, the experience will be intense, with a
quick succession of high and low emotions. But we should always remember that
whatever emotion you are feeling is a part of your grieving process.
The hardest part of all to unchain our heart that’s holding on and start to live our life again as nothing has happened at all. At that acute moment, the only thing left with us is the memories of our dear one. These memories work as a ray of sunshine after the storm to bring a smile on our face. Even though it’s meant for a few seconds, we are pleased to have those memories stored. While looking back to the stack of photos, we realise it is the best way of preserving the memories of our dear one. They are the window to our past that was once so beautiful.
tears flow down while we sit there and attempt to describe that picture.
It is probably the most painful memory we have. But whether good or bad,
these will only be the things you have with you of your dearly one. There will
be so many good moments you shared – It might be the first time you met them,
the happy moments you both shared, your marriage, the moments when you fought
over silly topics and then try to overcome those fights apologising to each
other. These small little moments form a major part of our life through
we try to move on with our life, we might find that we can think of our loved
one and feel happy instead of sad or hurt. Embrace those feelings of joy and
happiness, and think of them as the gifts your loved one has provided you. Despite
how firm we try, we cannot live in the past nor stay forever in the present. To
live, we must move on and look to the future. In spite of several years passing
by, the love that we once lost cannot be replaced, as if we have lost a part within
us. The aching of that damage stays forever. Still, life goes on, sadly on a
different pathway than we assumed. Sometimes it’s the only choice left which
becomes the only way to live our life. We need to feel good and live with the memories of a precious
one, treasure them and move on in life.
Life is a series of ups & down. Just like the bumpy line in your ECG Graph means we are alive whereas a straight graph defines death. Similarly, the highs and lows in our life are proof of our living. There are instances where everything falls apart. There is a moment where you start hating everything around and more precisely start hating your own existence. Do you remember that particular memory when you can’t stand your own self? It might be due to various reasons, maybe guilt or regret. Maybe you felt that you were not worthy enough for someone else or maybe you disappointed someone or broke someone’s heart. There might be N number of reasons to this feeling but holding on it has never been the solution to it.
All this while, you have been carrying this self-hatred in your heart and because of this, you have forgotten to love yourself completely. Yes, you might have some ugly secrets, committed some of the silliest mistakes or blunders because of which you think that you do not qualify as a good human. But tell me who doesn’t? Nobody over here is a perfect figure. We all are humans and humans are bound to make mistakes and learn from them. We all have done things which we shouldn’t have, said things which we shouldn’t, fell in love with wrong people and let go of the right ones.
But Darling, you have carried this heavy burden in your chest for quite a while and that is suffocating you from within. Because of which you are persistently worried and depressed, and anxiety penetrates around you making way for panic attacks. Your cynical heart has become a breeding ground for demons, who are feeding off on your self-esteem. And you’re not alone in this. We all are fighting our own demons that are within us. All we need to do is, keep trying and you will be amazed to see how your love can create angels out of your demons.
Love Starts from Within
Never make yourself feel that you are not good enough. You always deserve the best. Are you unable to remember the times when you forgot your own sorrows just to bring a smile on someone else’s face? Do you know about the times you have made a difference in someone’s life without even realizing it? Remember the times when you went out of the way just to help someone in need. If you had forgotten, remember it now.
Do you recall that innocent, loving and caring kid that is still within you, waiting for you to reach out to him/her? All you got to do is, take a step forward towards the old you that is still worthy of love and of everything that you have wished for. Embrace yourself because self-love is the best kind of love. The only person who will be beside you throughout this life journey is You. Because how you love yourself defines how others love you.
The longest relationship you will be in, is with yourself so make sure you keep it safe. Therefore, always stay true to yourself and follow your heart. And you will fall in love yourself again.
She might not be the easiest girl to fall for. She tends to overthink a lot. Sometimes, she tends to overreact and often gets insecure. If you are with her, she’ll want your complete attention. Even though she doesn’t say much, but she notices every minute detail about you. She doesn’t appreciate fancy gifts, all she wants is your time and love. She is quite skeptical about her choices and therefore requires a lot of assurance.
There are times when she doesn’t know when to stop fighting with you even if she’s wrong and there are days when there is a storm inside her but still prefer to stay Calm. She might shove you away if she senses that you will hurt her. She may not be a Foodie but she can have her favourite food all week round. She might not be a sports enthusiast but outdoor games still do not fail to bring out the child in her. She loves to hang out but at the same time, she is one who would prefer to spend her weekends in the comfort of her home.
Loving her will pressure you, make you anguish, at times break your heart. There will be a time when loving her will test you, challenge you, and might as well change you. It may get so tough that you’ll be lured to walk away; it may get so difficult that you’ll think about giving up, and it may get so intricate that you won’t want to deal with her anymore. Loving her means you get to see her at her worst and most vulnerable and that is something that you’ll have to be strong enough to handle because she needs someone who’s tolerant enough to understand her.
She might not be the best at being loved but she’s pretty amazing at loving. Once you succeed in conquering her heart, you will have the best of her. She is the woman that will not have any second thoughts in giving all she could, just to get the smile on her man’s face. She loves fearlessly, unconditionally and sincerely. She will be the one you can bank upon when the rest of the world becomes cynical. If you’re her Man then you are the Man of her tiny little world too. And if she really is the one for you then She is definitely worth the risk 🙂
You watch Science-fiction Movies, I like Horror Films
You Play PS, I Read Books
You think Practically, I think Reasonably
You can talk to anyone and everyone, I’m reserved and keep distance from Strangers
There are a whole lot of things which we don’t have in common. But, the most important uncommon thing between us is the fact that we are loving two different people.
You love me and I love you.❤️
And that is the beauty of our relation or for that matter every relation. To appreciate the differences instead of trying to change your partner. Celebrate these small things in life because these are things that matter the most in every relation. Accepting the uncommon and giving them the same importance as common.
Woah..!! Looked at you. A full grown man already. So how does it feel to have walked this earth a quarter of a century? Insane right? Haha but it is definititely a memorable experience. I’m writing this as a letter to you because I consider myself an essential part of your life as you are to mine. You know how bad i’m at communicating so i prefer to pen down my feelings.
I still remember the young enthusiastic you, with eyes full of dreams to conquer. I may not have said this before but i admired the way you look at things differently. Maybe that’s why i fall for you so easily. I have seen the best of you and the worst of you. Most importantly i have seen you grow. I still remember the time when you were struggling to get a job; being out whole day,waiting for your round and that too when you were barely 18. The time when you got your first salary n you wanted to buy me something. I was so happy seeing you happy.
I have seen the hardships you faced due to the family problems. Even after it, i rejoice the moment you fulfilled your dream of getting your favourite bike. All by yourself. Over the years, you have grown so much and you still never fail to impress me. I just want to tell you you’ve made me so proud. Years have passed by giving us so many life changing experiences and lessons that helped us grow. I want you to enter this new phase of your life with the same spirit that you had in your early days and with bright hopes for the future.
I know at times it feels like you’ve lived an eternity, and other times you are reminded about how far you have to go yet. Life seems to be moving in slow motion and hyper speed at the same time. There are days where you feel completely in control of your life, and days when you don’t know which way is up. You’ve had your ups and downs and you will have highs and lows; that’s what life is all about, right? But through all of these, one thing that will always be beside you is my love.
With years our priorities and responsibilities will shift and you might see your perspective constantly being stretched, twisted, and redefined through experiences that you will have. Then there will be time when you doubt and question every recent decision you’ve made or that you will make.
“Am I doing the right thing?”
“Am I where I’m supposed to be?”
“How come I can’t seem to win?”
But you should stay calm and work out things your way. Always remember that you can’t appreciate winning until you’ve experienced losing. All the struggles that you had or will have will sharpened your sense of self and strengthened your resilience. There are personality traits you’ve been able to tweak, strengthen, and even shed when necessary. But the one that has stayed strong throughout your life is your passion to be the best.
Be grateful for being blessed with amazing people around you, who support, and teach you so much. No matter how many differences, your family will always stand behind you and back you with love and support you through thick and thin.
So at 25, it’s become evident that even though you have experienced a lot and learned more, you’ve only just begun. Call it cliché, but everything happens for a reason. The lowest lows can be the best lessons; lessons needed for later use. Do what you can with what you have and keep your vision fixated on your goals. With this, I wish you all the very best in whatever you do and always remember no matter what, I’ll always be there to provide comfort and stand by you in your hard times and applaud you for your success.
Last week, my 2-year-old nephew asked me a sweet question. He asked me what love is. which actually made me rethink my definition of love. So what exactly is love? For me, it is something more than just an emotion. It is something that has binds us all together. It is feeling that holds the strength of making even the impossible possible. It’s a touch of warmth and care. Something that is so pure like the innocence of children.
Love has no definite definition; it is everything that we do for the person we care for. It is when your mom cooks your favourite dinner for you or your dad gives the last piece of his pizza to you just because you like it, or when your sibling saves you from getting scold or when your friend helps you in shopping. Love is found in the simplest of things. One doesn’t always have to gift fancy gifts or take you out for expensive dinner dates. It is not something that you need to show always, it is something that needs to be felt.
Love is not always a bed of roses. Sometimes there are thorns too. It is graceful. It is stubborn. It is restful. It is wild. It sometimes is gentle and sometimes tough. It ties you down and at the same time helps you fly. It strengthens you within and sometimes makes you vulnerable too. Nowadays, we tend to take love for granted. You can’t just fake love; it is something that is natural. It is sweet sacrifices and compromises that we do for our loved ones. It not about ‘me’, it is more about ‘you’ and ‘we’ and that what’s making it so special.
The understanding of other person’s point of view and respecting their thinking is what defines love. But remember, love is a two-way street and never should be walked down alone. Never beg down for your love and self-respect. You can’t just force things on somebody just because you believe it. What matter is how you make them believe in it and how you appreciate the differences? Love is a butterfly that will fly away if you run behind it but will come and sit on your shoulder if you embrace it. It is like sand in your palm. The more you try hard to hold it, the more you will lose it.
If you genuinely care about the person, you should respect their set of decisions, guide them whenever needed but always take their thoughts into consideration. A little jealousy and possessiveness are always healthy in a relationship but never make it your definition. We tend to develop an ownership of the person we love. Surely, it is natural that we want to feel important and special in that person’s life and there’s is nothing wrong about it. But being bossy and dominating in a relationship is certainly not the right thing to do
Love is happiness and it should not make you or your partner feel frustrated and irritated. If the relation is getting toxic day-by-day, it is advisable to end it on a good note rather than dragging yourself in it. Learn to solve your issues maturely by communicating transparently rather than just shouting at the top of your voice and humiliating the other person. Every relation will have fights and difference of opinions but how you manage to overcome them is what defines love.
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It all started with a mere wink at the college entrance. I still remember the orientation program at our college. It was the first time we exchanged smile. The smile that brew a heart warming friendship between us which turn out into a beautiful relation within a blink of an eye. I don’t know what attracted me towards you. Maybe your loving soul or your caring heart. Maybe your friendly appearance or your ambitious mind. Maybe your tikki nok jok with me 😉 or just your mere presence in my life.
You remember our first touch, the first time we held our hands- we never thought it would be for life time.
Our first kiss- that is the sweetest mistake we ever did;)
Our first date- I still remember the sunset at the beach. That beautiful end of a day started a beautiful relation for lifetime.
Over the years, our relation have gone through many storms(some of the deadliest storms) but it is astonishing to watched how it has helped us grow stronger each time.
Sometimes you know, i just feel like leaving you and going away because resorting to that seems to be the easiest option. And then i realize that with just a sentence, how shattered we would be.
How it would bring about the destruction of more than one emotion. I realize that i’ll know your importance only after you leave because that’s what they always say. But actually coming to think of it, i would really wonder about how amongst the millions of fishes in the sea, you are the nicest and cutest one.
About how people have swam out of my life so easily, moving on with the waves. About how you cooperate and adapt to every stupid thing i do and still choose to swim along.
About how hard it is to find someone who appreciates and motivates me like you do. And the one that scares me the most, about how difficult it would be for me and how many miles i would have to swim to try to find someone like you and how lucky i am right now.
I would realize how i would be losing out on a best friend; a person i chose to trust after so many years, a person i chose for myself. I’m sorry for the times i made you feel crap and acted unreasonably.
On this special day, i just want to thank you for standing there for me always, for believing in me and making me believe in myself, for handling all my tantrums patiently, for making me laugh when i found it difficult to even smile, and for loving me as i’m.
Do you know the one thing that completes our School and College days? What is that which makes us miss those wonderful time we had during our childhood or teenage days? Its not the institutions nor the teachers, its the Friendship. The Friends with whom we have shared all those memories that makes us relive those days.
Friends do play an important role in everyone’s life. They are our second family. We meet various people during our life journey. Some touch our hearts, some are just passing cloud and some are a part of our soul. These people teach us some of the important lessons of our life. That is the reason why we are always said to choose our friends wisely. They do play a crucial role in molding our lives.
Nowadays relationships are broken by a single ‘UnFriend’ button. Yes! Though these seems rude but thats the bitter truth of our life. We all have build a huge wall around ourselves- a wall of Ego and Negativism. Why have we priortorized Ego over Love? Are relationships so easy to let go with a click of a button? No! Right? It’s time to let go off this materialized world and bring out your inner self that is more happy in the happiness of others and you will see a new world revolving around you.
Life now is unpredictable and so are people but that doesn’t make them bad, they are different! We have always seen that after a particular age we tend to take a backseats in relationships with friends while managing the rollar coaster ride between other relations.
Friendship is a bond that is beyond this universe. These bonds are always special to us because it is beyond the relation of blood.