You’re not Everyone’s Cup of Tea

Like most teen girls, I always struggle to fit in the squad and be liked by my other classmates. We all are guided from our childhood always to be yourself and nice to people, and eventually, people will like you. But, it was never that simple for me. I always tried my best to fit in by doing things that are loved by others such as wearing clothes that the other girls wear, makeup according to the latest trends or watching TV shows that are liked by all and playing games that are played by all. But the fact that I was never really into makeup, what they were wearing wasn’t really my style, TV Shows or the games they played were never in my interest. In a moment of desperation to be liked by everyone, I started forcing myself into someone I wasn’t.

Sure at the core, I was still the same old person, but since I knew that the society accepts those who follow the troop and behave in a certain way, it sometime use to overburden me with doubt. I had a handful of friends throughout my school and college, and soon I realise that no amount of common ground would ever make some people like me. Certainly, we all have gone through this phase in our life where we change our preferences, interest, looks or behaviour with a motive to be accepted and liked by someone. We all want to be accepted and acknowledged. Unfortunately, we live in the world where people take one quick look at you and decide whether to include you in their circle or not.

Surround Yourself with People who Love you

The world is jam-packed with people who will always nag, judge and pull you down. No matter what you do or how hard you try, they simply won’t like you. Some people love you, fiercely. Keep them safe because they are your people. Stop trying to please the ones who aren’t your people. They won’t buy what you’re selling. You can never be their cup of tea, and neither will they be yours. Don’t expect them to walk your path with you. They won’t ever understand. Politely wave them away as you move ahead. Share your path with the ones who appreciate and know your worth. Always be who you are and cherish your true self for that’s what is more important. Because you’re not everyone’s cup of tea and that’s completely Okay!

Learning to Say ‘No’

Have you encountered a situation where you had to do something just because you were unable to use the two-letter word ‘No’? I’m sure we all have some or the other time been in a similar situation. It is because from childhood we have been raised to help others no matter whatever the situation. Though some people smartly handled such kind of dilemma, there are few like me sure who are always trapped in such situations.The problem here is we believe that saying no to someone is regarded as being rude. And of course, nobody ever wants to be offensive to someone, especially to our closed ones. I’m not against being kind or helping the person in need.All I want to say is do things that don’t take a toll over you. I remember the lines written by Paulo Coelho

 “When you say yes to others, make sure you are not saying no to yourself.” – Paulo Coelho

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There is No Harm in Saying NO

If you are someone who faces these circumstances now and then, I’m sure you could exactly relate to what it feels like to be in such a dilemma. You have become someone who needs approval from other people. Somehow, you have become a people pleaser. The problem here is that you put the needs of others above your own. Being a doer, you thrive on caring for others. I say all this with much confidence because I have walked down that road; I was always on my toe to be there for all. The issue began when I started giving up on my thoughts, feelings and wishes with a hope to make other people happy to make sure that ‘we’ were good.

First of all, remember communication is the key. No matter what, if it is not possible for you to do something, it is your responsibility to communicate it with the other person. You have the right to say No. You don’t have to be aggressive or criticize someone for saying a No. All you got to do is talk out. I know this won’t happen overnight and definitely, it’s going to be tough. You will feel guilty for saying no, but eventually, it will help you re-focus your priorities. I’m not telling you to say no always but be flexible. When we start being authentic with ourselves and to others is when we focus on our life.  

Fall in Love with Yourself…Again…!!!

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Life is a series of ups & down. Just like the bumpy line in your ECG Graph means we are alive whereas a straight graph defines death. Similarly, the highs and lows in our life are proof of our living. There are instances where everything falls apart.  There is a moment where you start hating everything around and more precisely start hating your own existence. Do you remember that particular memory when you can’t stand your own self? It might be due to various reasons, maybe guilt or regret. Maybe you felt that you were not worthy enough for someone else or maybe you disappointed someone or broke someone’s heart. There might be N number of reasons to this feeling but holding on it has never been the solution to it.

All this while, you have been carrying this self-hatred in your heart and because of this, you have forgotten to love yourself completely. Yes, you might have some ugly secrets, committed some of the silliest mistakes or blunders because of which you think that you do not qualify as a good human. But tell me who doesn’t? Nobody over here is a perfect figure. We all are humans and humans are bound to make mistakes and learn from them. We all have done things which we shouldn’t have, said things which we shouldn’t, fell in love with wrong people and let go of the right ones.

But Darling, you have carried this heavy burden in your chest for quite a while and that is suffocating you from within. Because of which you are persistently worried and depressed, and anxiety penetrates around you making way for panic attacks. Your cynical heart has become a breeding ground for demons, who are feeding off on your self-esteem.  And you’re not alone in this. We all are fighting our own demons that are within us. All we need to do is, keep trying and you will be amazed to see how your love can create angels out of your demons.

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Love Starts from Within

Never make yourself feel that you are not good enough. You always deserve the best. Are you unable to remember the times when you forgot your own sorrows just to bring a smile on someone else’s face? Do you know about the times you have made a difference in someone’s life without even realizing it? Remember the times when you went out of the way just to help someone in need. If you had forgotten, remember it now.

Do you recall that innocent, loving and caring kid that is still within you, waiting for you to reach out to him/her? All you got to do is, take a step forward towards the old you that is still worthy of love and of everything that you have wished for. Embrace yourself because self-love is the best kind of love. The only person who will be beside you throughout this life journey is You. Because how you love yourself defines how others love you.

The longest relationship you will be in, is with yourself so make sure you keep it safe. Therefore, always stay true to yourself and follow your heart. And you will fall in love yourself again.

Embrace Being Ordinary

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‘Ordinary’ is not a word it’s a statement. A statement that engulfs so much within it.

Why do we underestimate it so much?

Why is it always essential to add that EXTRA in your Ordinary?

And Why are we never satisfied with an Ordinary?

There are so many other questions that erupt like a volcano within me

As children, we are always thought to be our best in whatever we do. And there is no harm in it but expecting that extra in everything we do surely takes a toll over us. Sooner, our life starts becoming a battleground where we strive to add that extra by being ahead of others. But is it always necessary to be extraordinary to excel in life and more importantly be happy in life?

We don’t wish for an ordinary life or ordinary home and for that matter an ordinary lifestyle. We can never settle for ordinary. I don’t say that hoping for better things in life is a sin but all I want to say is sometimes it is awesome to be an Ordinary. As the great proverb says,’Expectations leads to Disappointment’, we need to learn to accept things as they are. And it brings so much joy when we appreciate the little things in our life rather than complaining about the things that don’t even exist in our life.

It’s time we stop expecting so much from life. It is okay to not have great marks in your exams, okay to fail in love, to get rejected in interviews, to not have that great lifestyle and it is completely fine to be an ordinary. Life is not a race that needs to be won, it’s a beautiful ride that needs to be enjoyed to the fullest. The road  have potholes, speed-breakers and even some nuisance drivers but all these should not affect your journey. You might at times need to put a break to slow down a bit or accelerate it in order to pull off. All you got to do is, stay calm and focused.

Like, we always say every person is different and unique. And that makes each one of us extraordinary. So, the best way to do it is by being our-self’s and stop comparing our life to others. Be true to yourself, keep learning and keep growing! And I’m sure you will fall in love with the ordinary😊

A Baggage of Feelings

Something pinch me today very badly. Am I a stranger to myself? All this time I bottled up my emotions, because I thought that was the best thing to do. To stop over thinking about the things that makes me sad. That’s what we all are taught always- to let go off the things that bothers us. And each time this things stroked me hard on my face, I let them go. But today all of a sudden this storm waves crossed the seashore destroying everything that came in the middle.

I question myself each time ‘am I doing the right thing?’ And each time I got the same answer- I dont know. Whom was I fooling all this while? Myself or the World? People say the world doesn’t care, then why do we care so much about the world? Because ultimately that’s where we belong. Do you share the same feeling?

With each passing day, my life is taking a huge turn and i’m juggling to survive in this ruthless world. I know somewhere at a point i have to stop it by myself. Sometimes I be selfish, I act crazy and sometimes I be a completely different person. It’s sounds funny like am going through split personality disorder. One moment i’m the happiest person on the earth, laughing my lungs out and the next moment I found myself surrounded by anxiety and depression. Life has its own way to serve you what you deserve.

One of the major thing which i realize during all of this trauma was, how you trigger your mind determines your way of life. The people close to you plays a vital role to help you escape from this Bermuda triangle of sorrow. Your parents, your friends or your loved one, whomever you are comfortable talking to. Just talk out it out your concerns with them and that will certainly have a positive impact on your life. It is always better to vomit out the poison of negative thoughts that would damage your soul.
Like they say it’s all in the head, don’t let the outer uncertainty destroy your inner peace. Life surely is a roller-coaster ride and not all days will be similar always. But in the end it’s all about how you make the most of it. So, live life worry less, Smile often and make the best of it 🙂

Passion Follows

Passion Writing

I love to write… I buy tons of journals excited because they all begin blank than I slowly fill the pages with random thoughts, quotes and sayings. My passion for writing started when I was in 7th grade. English classes were great, but creative writing assignments made them better! I was more content with creative writing, rather than learning basic grammar rules. Slowly it turned out to be a hobby.

I’m an introvert person; I really don’t like to share my feelings with anyone. In fact I would love to write down my feelings rather than expressing it to any one. I write because sometimes I can’t talk to anyone maybe it’s because fear of judgment or just being left alone. I never knew I’d come to love writing as much as I do. Writing is like a best friend. My writing comforts me when I’m upset, & excites me when I think about certain people whom I cherish.

I would like to write short stories. Sometimes I have even been unsuccessful at my attempts. This will not stop my efforts to do so. I’ll just have to keep on trying. I now hope to have a professional writing career in the future. I want to turn my hobby into my career, overcoming my drawbacks.

Few months back, I wrote a short love story which I even shared with my friends. Reading it, they were very happy and insisted me upon making writing as my career. I love reading novels. I know I’m not the most perfect writer, and no one ever is. It takes time, but it’s worth the trials & triumphs. I want to see my self as a professional writer. And I really wish to see my name on the published book.

 “The Village” 

It was my 21st birthday morning when the knock on the door woke me up. Lazily I opened the door. To my surprise, my best buddies were already at the door to wish me happy birthday. Not many but I have a few valuable friends in my life- Riya, Kavya, Rahul, Dale and Rohan. We are together from our kindergarten and over these years our friendship has grown even stronger. They had got few balloons and a lovely bouquet of my favorite flowers. That was really very sweet of them. It was a sweet and memorable birthday morning. 
                                     
We all decided to go out for lunch. Soon we got ready and left for our lunch party. We headed to the Raghuleela mall which is located in Khandivli. In Raghuleela mall, there is a restaurant called “The Village” since it has a theme of a village. I had heard a lot about it but never had visited it. As we entered, we saw a guy sitting like a munim (the accountant of a shop). He inquired us about the number of people for the visit and we had to pay for our meal then and there.
                                      
Further as we moved in, we saw a guy in dhoti with a transistor and he stamped our hands.The stamp was in circle with a VK letters in the centre. We got mango drink as our welcome drink. It looked like a total village fair. There were many elements which drove our attention such as village saloon shop, potter shop, post office etc. We then took our table which gave a feel of a local village dhaba. There were ladies dressed in traditional outfit serving food to all the guests. Some traditional Indian songs were being played in the background.

We were first served with the starters like Dhokla, Cutlets, matar potli. It all smelled and looked so delicious and mouthwatering. We were so hungry that we decided to jump up to the main course. I had taken mix veg. Dal, Pulav, Chole and Chapati. My friends tried Pav bhaji and Masala dosa etc. All the dishes tasted yummy. But the star attraction at that place was the entertainment. They played a puppet show which was funny and cute. There were options like Mehendi, bangles shop.
   
The place is surrounded by a banyan tree which houses a jyotish (a tarot card reader) and a jeweller’s shop. The shop contained traditional Indian jewellery. There were tables, cots and chairs everywhere. There were no reserved tables so we could move around anywhere we want to and sit wherever we wish to. We also tasted the Chaat at the Chaat counter. 

                                               
There was a broken truck in which we sat and click some amazing snaps to capture the moment. For desserts, there were Gulab jamun, Vanilla ice-cream and even Jalebis. My friends had got a birthday cake for me. As they had informed the management about it, they even played a “Happy Birthday Song” when I cut the cake. It was a special day for me and also a wonderful experience. 

Writing – An Escape From Reality…!!!

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Hello, Good morning Peeps!

Who all feel to have a life on your terms without the unwanted interference? Quite a direct question but the answer to this question will have a deep impact on your life.

I’m sure we all want a life where no one has the right to dictate us what to do, how to do it, and when to do it.That’s what we all want, right? And the truth is that writing can afford us such freedoms and luxuries. So why not try your hands on it?

It feels great for finally having an open forum to put down my thoughts. Over the years, I expressed my feelings to someone who was loyal enough that still hold all my stories and emotions hidden in it. Before you make any guesses let me tell you, my treasure box who holds so much inside it – my personal Diary. Yes! I can truly say my personal diary is my secret keeper.

At the tender age of 13, I became keen to write about each and every moment of my life. And it is so wonderful to relive those memories through my diary now. At a certain point in Life, we all have some or the other memories stored inside it. The most amazing thing about personal diary is that it is a very good listener. It might not give you any advice or help you find a solution but still having it with you will make you feel good because, at times we all need, is an ear to our problems.

As we all know that a true friend is always there beside you for your good as well as bad times, comforts you when you are low and grasps your thoughts when you’re flooded with them. That’s exactly what your diary does.

You can share your joy as well as cry out your pain with it and all it will do is listen to you very carefully. There is also a different comfort zone because every time you express your emotions, it will make you feel peaceful inside out. It is the best companion you can have with you.

Writing is an expression. You open your heart on a piece of paper and express it through words. It’s like having our whole life kept safely inside a treasure box that everyone is excited to open but only you have an access to it. (Unless someone accidently or purposely reads it down.)

That’s all for today. Stay tuned for more wordy thoughts

Ps: Excuse if any blunder or errors since this is my first blog