Love her or Not?

She might not be the easiest girl to fall for. She tends to overthink a lot. Sometimes, she tends to overreact and often gets insecure. If you are with her, she’ll want your complete attention. Even though she doesn’t say much, but she notices every minute detail about you. She doesn’t appreciate fancy gifts, all she wants is your time and love. She is quite skeptical about her choices and therefore requires a lot of assurance.

There are times when she doesn’t know when to stop fighting with you even if she’s wrong and there are days when there is a storm inside her but still prefer to stay Calm. She might shove you away if she senses that you will hurt her. She may not be a Foodie but she can have her favourite food all week round. She might not be a sports enthusiast but outdoor games still do not fail to bring out the child in her. She loves to hang out but at the same time, she is one who would prefer to spend her weekends in the comfort of her home.

Loving her will pressure you, make you anguish, at times break your heart. There will be a time when loving her will test you, challenge you, and might as well change you. It may get so tough that you’ll be lured to walk away; it may get so difficult that you’ll think about giving up, and it may get so intricate that you won’t want to deal with her anymore. Loving her means you get to see her at her worst and most vulnerable and that is something that you’ll have to be strong enough to handle because she needs someone who’s tolerant enough to understand her.

She might not be the best at being loved but she’s pretty amazing at loving. Once you succeed in conquering her heart, you will have the best of her. She is the woman that will not have any second thoughts in giving all she could, just to get the smile on her man’s face. She loves fearlessly, unconditionally and sincerely. She will be the one you can bank upon when the rest of the world becomes cynical. If you’re her Man then you are the Man of her tiny little world too. And if she really is the one for you then She is definitely worth the risk 🙂

Childhood – Down the Memory Lane

Have you ever had a flashback of a memory from when you were an infant? Or have you ever sat there and wished you were a little kid again? I’m sure it has happened with each one of us, at least once in our lifetime. You cannot recollect everything that happened in our childhood. But certain events are stored in the Subconscious mind. Sometimes they peep through the mind’s eye.

As we all know that human life is divided into four periods: childhood, youth, middle age and old age. Childhood is the best and sweetest of all these periods because children don’t know the language of religions. They are innocence souls for whom every gender and every religion is equal. It is said that the childhood days are the best day of anyone’s life. Someday or the other we all think life was more easy and fun in our childhood and we start to miss those days badly. We all used to be good at a lot of things, we never feared taking risks then and use to celebrate every bit of life without any worry during our childhood. These memories carve your soul and mold your being.

We all do cherish our childhood days. Some of the common things that we usually remember from our childhood can be the first day at school, birthday celebration that we enjoyed, a fight with a friend or a brave thing we did as a child or an unexpected gift that we got, something naughty we did or a dangerous experience from our childhood etc. All these memories hold the best part of our life. These were the days which will never come back. I’m sure many of us will be having some of the craziest memories of their childhood.

You know the way we build memories from photos, even if we don’t have that many actual memories from the event? I think, for us, those are our happiest childhood memories. The stories we’ve been told so many times that they’re more like legends than just something that happened. The best time is recollecting those precious moments of our life by looking over the old photos and mesmerizing those treasured memories that were captured. Old photos help a lot in even recollecting the memories that have been washed off from our mind. It is the best way to relive those memorable moments of our life.

Remember the times when we as a child wanted to grow up fast so that we could be free from our daily study routine but looking back we understand, that was the best time of our life because now we realize that incomplete homework and broken toys were far better than unfulfilled dreams and broken emotions. As we grow-up; we start getting busy with other stuff in our life. Our life changes and so does our priorities. When we think of our childhood memories it leaves a sweet smile on our face.

It was the time when innocence was natural, when getting high meant on swing, when dad was the only hero, when love was Mom’s hug, when dad’s shoulder was the highest place on earth, when your worst enemies were your siblings, when the only thing that could hurt was bleeding knees, when the only things broken were toys and when goodbyes only meant till tomorrow. When you think about all this, you realize that life has changed a lot and there is nothing we could do about it. The only thing we could do is to cherish these memories in our heart forever. All these memories act as a great source of bliss in solitude and flash before our mind’s eye over and again and give us immense joy and pleasure.

Let me quote the words of the poet:ll

“Backward, turn backward, time in your flight:

Make me a child again just tonight.”

 – Elizabeth Akers Allen

Love – The Uncommon that is so Common❤️

Love couple

You love Chicken, I’m a Vegetarian

You Eat butterscotch, I like chocolate

You’re interested in Sports, I like Craft

You watch Science-fiction Movies, I like Horror Films

You Play PS, I Read Books

You think Practically, I think Reasonably

You can talk to anyone and everyone, I’m reserved and keep distance from Strangers

There are a whole lot of things which we don’t have in common. But, the most important uncommon thing between us is the fact that we are loving two different people.

You love me and I love you.❤️

And that is the beauty of our relation or for that matter every relation. To appreciate the differences instead of trying to change your partner. Celebrate these small things in life because these are things that matter the most in every relation. Accepting the uncommon and giving them the same importance as common. 

Embrace Being Ordinary

Ordinary

‘Ordinary’ is not a word it’s a statement. A statement that engulfs so much within it.

Why do we underestimate it so much?

Why is it always essential to add that EXTRA in your Ordinary?

And Why are we never satisfied with an Ordinary?

There are so many other questions that erupt like a volcano within me

As children, we are always thought to be our best in whatever we do. And there is no harm in it but expecting that extra in everything we do surely takes a toll over us. Sooner, our life starts becoming a battleground where we strive to add that extra by being ahead of others. But is it always necessary to be extraordinary to excel in life and more importantly be happy in life?

We don’t wish for an ordinary life or ordinary home and for that matter an ordinary lifestyle. We can never settle for ordinary. I don’t say that hoping for better things in life is a sin but all I want to say is sometimes it is awesome to be an Ordinary. As the great proverb says,’Expectations leads to Disappointment’, we need to learn to accept things as they are. And it brings so much joy when we appreciate the little things in our life rather than complaining about the things that don’t even exist in our life.

It’s time we stop expecting so much from life. It is okay to not have great marks in your exams, okay to fail in love, to get rejected in interviews, to not have that great lifestyle and it is completely fine to be an ordinary. Life is not a race that needs to be won, it’s a beautiful ride that needs to be enjoyed to the fullest. The road  have potholes, speed-breakers and even some nuisance drivers but all these should not affect your journey. You might at times need to put a break to slow down a bit or accelerate it in order to pull off. All you got to do is, stay calm and focused.

Like, we always say every person is different and unique. And that makes each one of us extraordinary. So, the best way to do it is by being our-self’s and stop comparing our life to others. Be true to yourself, keep learning and keep growing! And I’m sure you will fall in love with the ordinary😊

Miss You – Wish you could come back

Dear Aatya,

Though it has been 7 years now since you left us all behind somehow I still feel your presence around. Whenever I come home, I feel you will be there in the kitchen cooking meal for us, watching your daily soaps or grinding baby food on millstones. Life has surely changed for all of us, the day you left this world. You were the homemaker, the one that connected us all together. Not a day passes by when you are not missed.

I wish you were here during didi’s wedding, I know your happiness would knew no bound. Since the day we were born, we three were more than niece to you. You were our second mother. I can imagine the excitement and glow on your face during her wedding and how you would enthusiastically participate in all the preparations. I still remember how much you loved to get dressed up. Time passes by so fast.

I still remember the time when I was crying so bad on my first day at school and you handed me a chocolate and convince me to go to school. Mummy could only work carefreely because she always had your back. You were there to look after us. Every morning you fed me breakfast, gave me a bath, took me to school and came back to pick me up.

It was your daily routine. I miss lying in your lap while watching TV. The time when you use to convince mom to buy me the toy I loved and when you even convinced didi to do my homework each time just because I gave excuses for not feeling well. You were always there for me like a guarding angel.The day when the doctor broke the news of your kidney failure hit us so hard. I can never forget those 15 days spent in that hospital.

I know you were scared a lot from inside but you fought it like a brave woman. All the dialysis procedures were slowly killing you inside and somewhere us too seeing you in all that pain. But nothing works before God’s will. I still remember the day before your death when you were sitting on the hospital bed. I was leaving for home and I said bye to you but you didn’t respond so, I patted you and said you bye again but you ignored it. So I left but while going I just happened to turn back and I saw you smiling at me and waving bye. I smiled and waved back at you and left for home happily.

The next day when I came back from college I heard that your condition was critical. Without any second thoughts I was rushing to the hospital but on my way, I got the news that you could not make it up. I went blank in the middle of the road and started moaning. All the memories just flooded in. I remember the last night when you waved at me smilingly and I wish I could go back to that time and hug you back. That single memory still never fails to give me goosebumps. It was your last goodbye to me. I never imagined it would be so heartbreaking.

I know you are at peace now but a part of you will remain with us forever. I wish I could have you by my side always. I know you are looking at us from above and I hope I could make you proud someday. I Love you and I Miss you.

I just wanted to dedicate a song to you which always reminds me of you-

“You tucked me in, turn out the light

Kept me safe and sound at night

Little girls depend on things like that

Brushed my teeth and combed my hair

Had to drive me everywhere

You were always there when

I looked back

You had to do it all alone

Make a living and make a home

Must have been as hard as it could’ve been

And when I couldn’t sleep at night

Scared things wouldn’t turn out right

You were there to hold my hand and sing to me

Caterpillar in the tree

How you wonder who you’ll be

Can’t go far but you can always dream

Wish you may and wish you might

Don’t you worry, hold on tight

I promise you there will come a day

Butterfly fly away

Butterfly fly away

Butterfly fly away”


(Butterfly fly away – Song by Miley Cyrus)

Yours lovingly,

Vrushu

Unload your Emotional Luggage

Life can sometime come at us so fast and furious that hopelessness can invade our hearts. It can get just downright boring and depressing. It also might give us time to turn our focus on ourselves such that we find it not worth it to live any longer. The feeling of sheer hopelessness and self-hatred escorts depression. There will be times you be awake at night feeling like your head will burst. It is because every bad thought is circling around and around persistently.

Angry at God, at the world, at family, at friends, or just about anybody can make us send a message by doing the ultimate selfish act of suicide. But suicide was never an answer nor will it ever be. There will be a time when you feel, there is nothing to live for. The voice over your head might be over powering you but you have to realize that it is wrong. You will need time to get strong enough to challenge it. Sometimes it might be difficult to deal with problems all alone. At such times try talking to someone who is close to you. Talking over the issues and getting consult might help you to reduce the stress. It will also help in overcoming the worries.

It might become difficult to live with a heavy heart that might suffocate. No matter how long you have been in that hole, how deep it is or how hopeless it seems to attempt to climb out of it, you have to overcome the demon inside you. There is no magic spill to cure depression and anxiety; it is you will that makes it possible although the correct medications do play a vital role in recovery.

Depression can happen for multiple reasons. It can be failure in your career, loss of someone dear to you or even the feeling of being left alone. At times, we may feel completely lost. We aren’t lost, but that’s how we felt. However we have to realize that after the loss of a dear one, our life changes completely. There might be a time when you unexpectedly face failure, but you should always remember that failure is our first step towards success. You might want to go back to how it was, but you can’t go back.

You have to struggle a lot to overcome your grief. You have to learn to accept what you cannot change. Acceptance allows us to use our pain as a means of growth.The first step towards recovery is the decision to be in recovery; to value our self and put a stop to self-destructive behavior. You should be kind to yourself, talk to yourself as you would to someone that you love and never get disheartened by the bad times because they will be for short span of time.

Love – A mere feeling or an obsession for life

Last week, my 2-year-old nephew asked me a sweet question. He asked me what love is. which actually made me rethink my definition of love. So what exactly is love? For me, it is something more than just an emotion. It is something that has binds us all together. It is feeling that holds the strength of making even the impossible possible. It’s a touch of warmth and care. Something that is so pure like the innocence of children.

Love has no definite definition; it is everything that we do for the person we care for. It is when your mom cooks your favourite dinner for you or your dad gives the last piece of his pizza to you just because you like it, or when your sibling saves you from getting scold or when your friend helps you in shopping. Love is found in the simplest of things. One doesn’t always have to gift fancy gifts or take you out for expensive dinner dates. It is not something that you need to show always, it is something that needs to be felt.

Love is not always a bed of roses. Sometimes there are thorns too. It is graceful. It is stubborn. It is restful. It is wild. It sometimes is gentle and sometimes tough. It ties you down and at the same time helps you fly. It strengthens you within and sometimes makes you vulnerable too. Nowadays, we tend to take love for granted. You can’t just fake love; it is something that is natural. It is sweet sacrifices and compromises that we do for our loved ones. It not about ‘me’, it is more about ‘you’ and ‘we’ and that what’s making it so special.

The understanding of other person’s point of view and respecting their thinking is what defines love. But remember, love is a two-way street and never should be walked down alone. Never beg down for your love and self-respect. You can’t just force things on somebody just because you believe it. What matter is how you make them believe in it and how you appreciate the differences? Love is a butterfly that will fly away if you run behind it but will come and sit on your shoulder if you embrace it. It is like sand in your palm. The more you try hard to hold it, the more you will lose it.

If you genuinely care about the person, you should respect their set of decisions, guide them whenever needed but always take their thoughts into consideration. A little jealousy and possessiveness are always healthy in a relationship but never make it your definition. We tend to develop an ownership of the person we love. Surely, it is natural that we want to feel important and special in that person’s life and there’s is nothing wrong about it. But being bossy and dominating in a relationship is certainly not the right thing to do

Love is happiness and it should not make you or your partner feel frustrated and irritated. If the relation is getting toxic day-by-day, it is advisable to end it on a good note rather than dragging yourself in it. Learn to solve your issues maturely by communicating transparently rather than just shouting at the top of your voice and humiliating the other person. Every relation will have fights and difference of opinions but how you manage to overcome them is what defines love.

What do you think? Do share your views on it in the comment section below.

Strangers with Memories

“Life is like a box of chocolates. You never know what you’re gonna get.”

 Forrest Gump


True, to this line. Life is certainly unpredictable nowadays. You will never know what’s lying ahead in the future. Sometime it might appear as if you have a control over it and the next moment you find it uncontrollable. Life is a journey without a passport, no matter whatever happens you just have to keep travelling till the last stop i.e., death. Life waits for no one. You will meet several passengers in your expedition but not all will be there with you till the end.

Always remember the people who we meet in our life, meet for a reason. Not all encounters would be enthralling; there will be some that will tear us apart. We find souls with whom our lives intersect in such a way that we feel like it could never be separated. But it is distressing how a person whom we knew so well, with whom we shared our deepest secrets, fears, and happiness; have now become a stranger for life – A stranger that only shares a plethora of memories. There will be certain people who will not be in our life but a part of them will be there with us forever. No matter what, they will always have a piece of our heart.

There will be times when you will miss them badly. The places or restaurant you visited together, the songs you dedicated to each other or the time when you talked for hours will remind you about the beautiful time you shared with them, leaving behind a small grin on your face. It is sad that some people leave us for their selfish motives and reminisces about their memories with us become more painful. We tend to question our own senses and try to build up walls around us just because they stabbed us.

Don’t restrict yourself just because someone is incapable of finding your worth in their life. If they couldn’t value your presence in their life, it’s their loss, not yours. Keep no regrets, forgive often, and live to the fullest. Even though things didn’t end well, it had started great. Concentrate on the good things and let go off the bad memories. Keep all the memories alive in your heart because they are the happy moments that need to be cherished forever.