Last week, my 2-year-old nephew asked me a sweet question. He asked me what love is. which actually made me rethink my definition of love. So what exactly is love? For me, it is something more than just an emotion. It is something that has binds us all together. It is feeling that holds the strength of making even the impossible possible. It’s a touch of warmth and care. Something that is so pure like the innocence of children.
Love has no definite definition; it is everything that we do for the person we care for. It is when your mom cooks your favourite dinner for you or your dad gives the last piece of his pizza to you just because you like it, or when your sibling saves you from getting scold or when your friend helps you in shopping. Love is found in the simplest of things. One doesn’t always have to gift fancy gifts or take you out for expensive dinner dates. It is not something that you need to show always, it is something that needs to be felt.
Love is not always a bed of roses. Sometimes there are thorns too. It is graceful. It is stubborn. It is restful. It is wild. It sometimes is gentle and sometimes tough. It ties you down and at the same time helps you fly. It strengthens you within and sometimes makes you vulnerable too. Nowadays, we tend to take love for granted. You can’t just fake love; it is something that is natural. It is sweet sacrifices and compromises that we do for our loved ones. It not about ‘me’, it is more about ‘you’ and ‘we’ and that what’s making it so special.
The understanding of other person’s point of view and respecting their thinking is what defines love. But remember, love is a two-way street and never should be walked down alone. Never beg down for your love and self-respect. You can’t just force things on somebody just because you believe it. What matter is how you make them believe in it and how you appreciate the differences? Love is a butterfly that will fly away if you run behind it but will come and sit on your shoulder if you embrace it. It is like sand in your palm. The more you try hard to hold it, the more you will lose it.
If you genuinely care about the person, you should respect their set of decisions, guide them whenever needed but always take their thoughts into consideration. A little jealousy and possessiveness are always healthy in a relationship but never make it your definition. We tend to develop an ownership of the person we love. Surely, it is natural that we want to feel important and special in that person’s life and there’s is nothing wrong about it. But being bossy and dominating in a relationship is certainly not the right thing to do
Love is happiness and it should not make you or your partner feel frustrated and irritated. If the relation is getting toxic day-by-day, it is advisable to end it on a good note rather than dragging yourself in it. Learn to solve your issues maturely by communicating transparently rather than just shouting at the top of your voice and humiliating the other person. Every relation will have fights and difference of opinions but how you manage to overcome them is what defines love.
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“Life is like a box of chocolates. You never know what you’re gonna get.”
– Forrest Gump
True, to this line. Life is certainly unpredictable nowadays. You will never know what’s lying ahead in the future. Sometime it might appear as if you have a control over it and the next moment you find it uncontrollable. Life is a journey without a passport, no matter whatever happens you just have to keep travelling till the last stop i.e., death. Life waits for no one. You will meet several passengers in your expedition but not all will be there with you till the end.
Always remember the people who we meet in our life, meet for a reason. Not all encounters would be enthralling; there will be some that will tear us apart. We find souls with whom our lives intersect in such a way that we feel like it could never be separated. But it is distressing how a person whom we knew so well, with whom we shared our deepest secrets, fears, and happiness; have now become a stranger for life – A stranger that only shares a plethora of memories. There will be certain people who will not be in our life but a part of them will be there with us forever. No matter what, they will always have a piece of our heart.
There will be times when you will miss them badly. The places or restaurant you visited together, the songs you dedicated to each other or the time when you talked for hours will remind you about the beautiful time you shared with them, leaving behind a small grin on your face. It is sad that some people leave us for their selfish motives and reminisces about their memories with us become more painful. We tend to question our own senses and try to build up walls around us just because they stabbed us.
Don’t restrict yourself just because someone is incapable of finding your worth in their life. If they couldn’t value your presence in their life, it’s their loss, not yours. Keep no regrets, forgive often, and live to the fullest. Even though things didn’t end well, it had started great. Concentrate on the good things and let go off the bad memories. Keep all the memories alive in your heart because they are the happy moments that need to be cherished forever.
This sunday morning was not just like any other day. It brought with it the most shocking news for all. Today we lost one of the legendary actress in Indian cinema, Mrs. Sridevi Kapoor, the most inspiring, talented and graceful personality. News channel announced that she had a cardiac arrest and was rushed to the hospital but could not make it and took her last breath yesterday night. I have still not been able to soak this harsh truth. But this incident surely hit hard on our face making us realize the cruelty of life. Life today has become so unpredictable, one moment you would be enjoying to the fullest with your loved one and the next moment all that is left is their memories. Each day is counted infact each minute is important. That is why it is essential to make the most of it because every minute you spend being sad is the lost 60 seconds of happiness.You only get one life so , don’t hold grudges against anyone, forgive often, smile constant and live life to the fullest because time waits for no one.Tomorrow is promised to No man. No matter who you are. You can’t plan anything because tomorrow can be a day you never expected to be. So this teaches us to live in the moment. Make sure you make the most of every second every minute of your life.
I remember the very famous bollywood song lines which you will totally agree to:
‘Zindagi EK Safar Hai Suhana Yaha Kal Kya Ho Kisne Jaana’
Something pinch me today very badly. Am I a stranger to myself? All this time I bottled up my emotions, because I thought that was the best thing to do. To stop over thinking about the things that makes me sad. That’s what we all are taught always- to let go off the things that bothers us. And each time this things stroked me hard on my face, I let them go. But today all of a sudden this storm waves crossed the seashore destroying everything that came in the middle.
I question myself each time ‘am I doing the right thing?’ And each time I got the same answer- I dont know. Whom was I fooling all this while? Myself or the World? People say the world doesn’t care, then why do we care so much about the world? Because ultimately that’s where we belong. Do you share the same feeling?
With each passing day, my life is taking a huge turn and i’m juggling to survive in this ruthless world. I know somewhere at a point i have to stop it by myself. Sometimes I be selfish, I act crazy and sometimes I be a completely different person. It’s sounds funny like am going through split personality disorder. One moment i’m the happiest person on the earth, laughing my lungs out and the next moment I found myself surrounded by anxiety and depression. Life has its own way to serve you what you deserve.
One of the major thing which i realize during all of this trauma was, how you trigger your mind determines your way of life. The people close to you plays a vital role to help you escape from this Bermuda triangle of sorrow. Your parents, your friends or your loved one, whomever you are comfortable talking to. Just talk out it out your concerns with them and that will certainly have a positive impact on your life. It is always better to vomit out the poison of negative thoughts that would damage your soul. Like they say it’s all in the head, don’t let the outer uncertainty destroy your inner peace. Life surely is a roller-coaster ride and not all days will be similar always. But in the end it’s all about how you make the most of it. So, live life worry less, Smile often and make the best of it 🙂
I love to write… I buy tons of journals excited because they all begin blank than I slowly fill the pages with random thoughts, quotes and sayings. My passion for writing started when I was in 7th grade. English classes were great, but creative writing assignments made them better! I was more content with creative writing, rather than learning basic grammar rules. Slowly it turned out to be a hobby.
I’m an introvert person; I really don’t like to share my feelings with anyone. In fact I would love to write down my feelings rather than expressing it to any one. I write because sometimes I can’t talk to anyone maybe it’s because fear of judgment or just being left alone. I never knew I’d come to love writing as much as I do. Writing is like a best friend. My writing comforts me when I’m upset, & excites me when I think about certain people whom I cherish.
I would like to write short stories. Sometimes I have even been unsuccessful at my attempts. This will not stop my efforts to do so. I’ll just have to keep on trying. I now hope to have a professional writing career in the future. I want to turn my hobby into my career, overcoming my drawbacks.
Few months back, I wrote a short love story which I even shared with my friends. Reading it, they were very happy and insisted me upon making writing as my career. I love reading novels. I know I’m not the most perfect writer, and no one ever is. It takes time, but it’s worth the trials & triumphs. I want to see my self as a professional writer. And I really wish to see my name on the published book.
It was my 21st birthday morning when the knock on the door woke me up. Lazily I opened the door. To my surprise, my best buddies were already at the door to wish me happy birthday. Not many but I have a few valuable friends in my life- Riya, Kavya, Rahul, Dale and Rohan. We are together from our kindergarten and over these years our friendship has grown even stronger. They had got few balloons and a lovely bouquet of my favorite flowers. That was really very sweet of them. It was a sweet and memorable birthday morning.
We all decided to go out for lunch. Soon we got ready and left for our lunch party. We headed to the Raghuleela mall which is located in Khandivli. In Raghuleela mall, there is a restaurant called “The Village” since it has a theme of a village. I had heard a lot about it but never had visited it. As we entered, we saw a guy sitting like a munim (the accountant of a shop). He inquired us about the number of people for the visit and we had to pay for our meal then and there.
Further as we moved in, we saw a guy in dhoti with a transistor and he stamped our hands.The stamp was in circle with a VK letters in the centre. We got mango drink as our welcome drink. It looked like a total village fair. There were many elements which drove our attention such as village saloon shop, potter shop, post office etc. We then took our table which gave a feel of a local village dhaba. There were ladies dressed in traditional outfit serving food to all the guests. Some traditional Indian songs were being played in the background.
We were first served with the starters like Dhokla, Cutlets, matar potli. It all smelled and looked so delicious and mouthwatering. We were so hungry that we decided to jump up to the main course. I had taken mix veg. Dal, Pulav, Chole and Chapati. My friends tried Pav bhaji and Masala dosa etc. All the dishes tasted yummy. But the star attraction at that place was the entertainment. They played a puppet show which was funny and cute. There were options like Mehendi, bangles shop.
The place is surrounded by a banyan tree which houses a jyotish (a tarot card reader) and a jeweller’s shop. The shop contained traditional Indian jewellery. There were tables, cots and chairs everywhere. There were no reserved tables so we could move around anywhere we want to and sit wherever we wish to. We also tasted the Chaat at the Chaat counter.
There was a broken truck in which we sat and click some amazing snaps to capture the moment. For desserts, there were Gulab jamun, Vanilla ice-cream and even Jalebis. My friends had got a birthday cake for me. As they had informed the management about it, they even played a “Happy Birthday Song” when I cut the cake. It was a special day for me and also a wonderful experience.
The years have just flipped like the pages in a book and here we have our life turned completely upside down. Even though it still feels like a moment of two or three days but surely it holds much more to it. I still remember the time when this marriage proposal came walking towards you. You were so excited and at the same time nervous too. For us, the feelings were mutual. There were differences in our thought but nothings bad that end well. And here we are there beside you, supporting you and there for you always. That’s what sisters are for, right? I still remember the time we were small and I being the youngest had all the perks of it. The time when I use to persuade our aunt that I’m not feeling well and she use to convince you to do my homework. Remember, how much pissed off you use to get on me? haha. All those memories are safe in our heart right from playing ghar ghar, draping mom’s dupatta as a saree, studying together to holding each other’s secrets. But now is the time when your life is going to change completely – A new place, a new family, new traditions and a new life. We can understand the pressure upon you and believe me someday or the other, every girl has to go through this strain. It is astonishing how a girl melds herself in her new life. A girl who never thought about the time has now become responsible and puts her family first in making any decision for her. I can’t imagine what feelings you must be going through at this particular moment but I just want you to know, we are here for you now and forever. You might go distance apart from us but our hearts are and always will be connected to one another.