You’re not Everyone’s Cup of Tea

Like most teen girls, I always struggle to fit in the squad and be liked by my other classmates. We all are guided from our childhood always to be yourself and nice to people, and eventually, people will like you. But, it was never that simple for me. I always tried my best to fit in by doing things that are loved by others such as wearing clothes that the other girls wear, makeup according to the latest trends or watching TV shows that are liked by all and playing games that are played by all. But the fact that I was never really into makeup, what they were wearing wasn’t really my style, TV Shows or the games they played were never in my interest. In a moment of desperation to be liked by everyone, I started forcing myself into someone I wasn’t.

Sure at the core, I was still the same old person, but since I knew that the society accepts those who follow the troop and behave in a certain way, it sometime use to overburden me with doubt. I had a handful of friends throughout my school and college, and soon I realise that no amount of common ground would ever make some people like me. Certainly, we all have gone through this phase in our life where we change our preferences, interest, looks or behaviour with a motive to be accepted and liked by someone. We all want to be accepted and acknowledged. Unfortunately, we live in the world where people take one quick look at you and decide whether to include you in their circle or not.

Surround Yourself with People who Love you

The world is jam-packed with people who will always nag, judge and pull you down. No matter what you do or how hard you try, they simply won’t like you. Some people love you, fiercely. Keep them safe because they are your people. Stop trying to please the ones who aren’t your people. They won’t buy what you’re selling. You can never be their cup of tea, and neither will they be yours. Don’t expect them to walk your path with you. They won’t ever understand. Politely wave them away as you move ahead. Share your path with the ones who appreciate and know your worth. Always be who you are and cherish your true self for that’s what is more important. Because you’re not everyone’s cup of tea and that’s completely Okay!

You’re the One

Though it feels like few Miles

We have shared so many Smiles

The bond that we share is so rare

You’re my guardian & best friend

I still remember the silly talks,

Having Chaats and the late night walks

Though it has been 8 years of togetherness

It feels like forever with the same old freshness

Often I wonder what made you the one.

Is it your cheerful nature or the not-so funny puns?

Is it the way you made me feel beautiful inside out?

Or the time you walked that extra mile beyond doubt?

Is it your yummiest tender coconut ice-cream?

Or your hourly lectures to motivate my self-esteem?

Each time saving for me the last few fries

And understanding all my veggie cries,

You know my worst nightmares & my craziest dreams,

Because after all we are in one team,

You can handle all my tantrums and drama,

Love me even in my pyjamas.

You’re patient; you’re humble

And always ready to catch me when I stumble.

Like every ordinary couple we have our ups and downs

But you will always be the king to my crown.

Letting Go….

A lot of us hoped for n number of things in life, material objects that can symbolise our status and success. Many among us wish to own a house, have a fruitful career, and have a happy family. Apart from possessions and recognition, people also desire security and fulfilment of a relationship. When we finally meet our soul partner, we are thrilled and believe that life is now complete. However, when things go off the beam, and the connection reaches an end, we go through mixed emotions that seem like to tear our soul apart. Losing people who are beloved to us leaves us in pain, and we do not understand how to handle it: let go. Letting go of a relationship that has meant everything to us is not a cake walk.

It is tough to even think about losing someone who has given us so much to remember. A person who we wanted to spent our whole life with, the only person whom we were always to rely on, the only person who stood beside us when the rest left us suddenly disappears from our world. Nobody can ever envisage the aching, the agony we would be going through. It would be the time when we feel alone, depressed but each one of us has to undergo this pain some or the other day in our life. When we lose somebody near to us, our world can feel suddenly different and unknown. Without them, we wouldn’t know what to do. 

We start to miss them so much. Even though they are not near, we always carry them in our heart. We may find simple routine tasks nearly impossible to do. On another day we may feel depressed, and the next moment we might be angry toward friends, family, or the world. For some, the experience will be intense, with a quick succession of high and low emotions. But we should always remember that whatever emotion you are feeling is a part of your grieving process.

The hardest part of all to unchain our heart that’s holding on and start to live our life again as nothing has happened at all. At that acute moment, the only thing left with us is the memories of our dear one. These memories work as a ray of sunshine after the storm to bring a smile on our face. Even though it’s meant for a few seconds, we are pleased to have those memories stored. While looking back to the stack of photos, we realise it is the best way of preserving the memories of our dear one. They are the window to our past that was once so beautiful.

The tears flow down while we sit there and attempt to describe that picture. It is probably the most painful memory we have. But whether good or bad, these will only be the things you have with you of your dearly one. There will be so many good moments you shared – It might be the first time you met them, the happy moments you both shared, your marriage, the moments when you fought over silly topics and then try to overcome those fights apologising to each other. These small little moments form a major part of our life through memories.

As we try to move on with our life, we might find that we can think of our loved one and feel happy instead of sad or hurt. Embrace those feelings of joy and happiness, and think of them as the gifts your loved one has provided you. Despite how firm we try, we cannot live in the past nor stay forever in the present. To live, we must move on and look to the future. In spite of several years passing by, the love that we once lost cannot be replaced, as if we have lost a part within us. The aching of that damage stays forever. Still, life goes on, sadly on a different pathway than we assumed. Sometimes it’s the only choice left which becomes the only way to live our life. We need to feel good and live with the memories of a precious one, treasure them and move on in life.

Fall in Love with Yourself…Again…!!!

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Life is a series of ups & down. Just like the bumpy line in your ECG Graph means we are alive whereas a straight graph defines death. Similarly, the highs and lows in our life are proof of our living. There are instances where everything falls apart.  There is a moment where you start hating everything around and more precisely start hating your own existence. Do you remember that particular memory when you can’t stand your own self? It might be due to various reasons, maybe guilt or regret. Maybe you felt that you were not worthy enough for someone else or maybe you disappointed someone or broke someone’s heart. There might be N number of reasons to this feeling but holding on it has never been the solution to it.

All this while, you have been carrying this self-hatred in your heart and because of this, you have forgotten to love yourself completely. Yes, you might have some ugly secrets, committed some of the silliest mistakes or blunders because of which you think that you do not qualify as a good human. But tell me who doesn’t? Nobody over here is a perfect figure. We all are humans and humans are bound to make mistakes and learn from them. We all have done things which we shouldn’t have, said things which we shouldn’t, fell in love with wrong people and let go of the right ones.

But Darling, you have carried this heavy burden in your chest for quite a while and that is suffocating you from within. Because of which you are persistently worried and depressed, and anxiety penetrates around you making way for panic attacks. Your cynical heart has become a breeding ground for demons, who are feeding off on your self-esteem.  And you’re not alone in this. We all are fighting our own demons that are within us. All we need to do is, keep trying and you will be amazed to see how your love can create angels out of your demons.

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Love Starts from Within

Never make yourself feel that you are not good enough. You always deserve the best. Are you unable to remember the times when you forgot your own sorrows just to bring a smile on someone else’s face? Do you know about the times you have made a difference in someone’s life without even realizing it? Remember the times when you went out of the way just to help someone in need. If you had forgotten, remember it now.

Do you recall that innocent, loving and caring kid that is still within you, waiting for you to reach out to him/her? All you got to do is, take a step forward towards the old you that is still worthy of love and of everything that you have wished for. Embrace yourself because self-love is the best kind of love. The only person who will be beside you throughout this life journey is You. Because how you love yourself defines how others love you.

The longest relationship you will be in, is with yourself so make sure you keep it safe. Therefore, always stay true to yourself and follow your heart. And you will fall in love yourself again.

Love her or Not?

She might not be the easiest girl to fall for. She tends to overthink a lot. Sometimes, she tends to overreact and often gets insecure. If you are with her, she’ll want your complete attention. Even though she doesn’t say much, but she notices every minute detail about you. She doesn’t appreciate fancy gifts, all she wants is your time and love. She is quite skeptical about her choices and therefore requires a lot of assurance.

There are times when she doesn’t know when to stop fighting with you even if she’s wrong and there are days when there is a storm inside her but still prefer to stay Calm. She might shove you away if she senses that you will hurt her. She may not be a Foodie but she can have her favourite food all week round. She might not be a sports enthusiast but outdoor games still do not fail to bring out the child in her. She loves to hang out but at the same time, she is one who would prefer to spend her weekends in the comfort of her home.

Loving her will pressure you, make you anguish, at times break your heart. There will be a time when loving her will test you, challenge you, and might as well change you. It may get so tough that you’ll be lured to walk away; it may get so difficult that you’ll think about giving up, and it may get so intricate that you won’t want to deal with her anymore. Loving her means you get to see her at her worst and most vulnerable and that is something that you’ll have to be strong enough to handle because she needs someone who’s tolerant enough to understand her.

She might not be the best at being loved but she’s pretty amazing at loving. Once you succeed in conquering her heart, you will have the best of her. She is the woman that will not have any second thoughts in giving all she could, just to get the smile on her man’s face. She loves fearlessly, unconditionally and sincerely. She will be the one you can bank upon when the rest of the world becomes cynical. If you’re her Man then you are the Man of her tiny little world too. And if she really is the one for you then She is definitely worth the risk 🙂

Love – The Uncommon that is so Common❤️

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You love Chicken, I’m a Vegetarian

You Eat butterscotch, I like chocolate

You’re interested in Sports, I like Craft

You watch Science-fiction Movies, I like Horror Films

You Play PS, I Read Books

You think Practically, I think Reasonably

You can talk to anyone and everyone, I’m reserved and keep distance from Strangers

There are a whole lot of things which we don’t have in common. But, the most important uncommon thing between us is the fact that we are loving two different people.

You love me and I love you.❤️

And that is the beauty of our relation or for that matter every relation. To appreciate the differences instead of trying to change your partner. Celebrate these small things in life because these are things that matter the most in every relation. Accepting the uncommon and giving them the same importance as common. 

Love – A mere feeling or an obsession for life

Last week, my 2-year-old nephew asked me a sweet question. He asked me what love is. which actually made me rethink my definition of love. So what exactly is love? For me, it is something more than just an emotion. It is something that has binds us all together. It is feeling that holds the strength of making even the impossible possible. It’s a touch of warmth and care. Something that is so pure like the innocence of children.

Love has no definite definition; it is everything that we do for the person we care for. It is when your mom cooks your favourite dinner for you or your dad gives the last piece of his pizza to you just because you like it, or when your sibling saves you from getting scold or when your friend helps you in shopping. Love is found in the simplest of things. One doesn’t always have to gift fancy gifts or take you out for expensive dinner dates. It is not something that you need to show always, it is something that needs to be felt.

Love is not always a bed of roses. Sometimes there are thorns too. It is graceful. It is stubborn. It is restful. It is wild. It sometimes is gentle and sometimes tough. It ties you down and at the same time helps you fly. It strengthens you within and sometimes makes you vulnerable too. Nowadays, we tend to take love for granted. You can’t just fake love; it is something that is natural. It is sweet sacrifices and compromises that we do for our loved ones. It not about ‘me’, it is more about ‘you’ and ‘we’ and that what’s making it so special.

The understanding of other person’s point of view and respecting their thinking is what defines love. But remember, love is a two-way street and never should be walked down alone. Never beg down for your love and self-respect. You can’t just force things on somebody just because you believe it. What matter is how you make them believe in it and how you appreciate the differences? Love is a butterfly that will fly away if you run behind it but will come and sit on your shoulder if you embrace it. It is like sand in your palm. The more you try hard to hold it, the more you will lose it.

If you genuinely care about the person, you should respect their set of decisions, guide them whenever needed but always take their thoughts into consideration. A little jealousy and possessiveness are always healthy in a relationship but never make it your definition. We tend to develop an ownership of the person we love. Surely, it is natural that we want to feel important and special in that person’s life and there’s is nothing wrong about it. But being bossy and dominating in a relationship is certainly not the right thing to do

Love is happiness and it should not make you or your partner feel frustrated and irritated. If the relation is getting toxic day-by-day, it is advisable to end it on a good note rather than dragging yourself in it. Learn to solve your issues maturely by communicating transparently rather than just shouting at the top of your voice and humiliating the other person. Every relation will have fights and difference of opinions but how you manage to overcome them is what defines love.

What do you think? Do share your views on it in the comment section below.

Friendship – A Relation Beyond the Universe

Do you know the one thing that completes our School and College days? What is that which makes us miss those wonderful time we had during our childhood or teenage days? Its not the institutions nor the teachers, its the Friendship. The Friends with whom we have shared all those memories that makes us relive those days. 

Friends do play an important role in everyone’s life. They are our second family. We meet various people during our life journey. Some touch our hearts, some are just passing cloud and some are a part of our soul. These people teach us some of the important lessons of our life. That is the reason why we are always said to choose our friends wisely. They do play a crucial role in molding our lives. 

Nowadays relationships are broken by a single ‘UnFriend’ button. Yes! Though these seems rude but thats the bitter truth of our life. We all have build a huge wall around ourselves- a wall of Ego and Negativism. Why have we priortorized Ego over Love? Are relationships so easy to let go with a click of a button? No! Right? It’s time to  let go off this materialized world and bring out your inner self that is more happy in the happiness of others and you will see a new world revolving around you. 

Life now is unpredictable and so are people but that doesn’t make them bad, they are different! We have always seen that after a particular age we tend to take a backseats in relationships with friends while managing the rollar coaster ride between other relations.

 Friendship is a bond that is beyond this universe. These bonds are always special to us because it is beyond the relation of blood.